My slippers are tucked beneath the table at my favorite library's computer. I am enjoying the air conditioned air on one of the last hot days of the season. It will be in the low 80's before the sun is pau with his daily work.
Years ago, in 1995, to be specific, I met an Aunty who would influence my life from that point forward. She became my kumu my teacher in a practice she called "Makua o'o" maturing adult, or elder-in-training. I was newly returned to the islands of my birth after twenty-five years in Mukilteo Washington. There was so much I had no idea I didn't know, though I knew I was home to begin again.
The practice of becoming kupuna or elder began when I followed Aunty Betty Kawohiokalani Ellis Jenkins to events and workshops she was facilitating. A retired elementary school teacher, "Aunty Betty" continued to teach after her years as a teacher of small children ended.
Our initial meeting happened when we were doing training sessions with two different Ka'anapali Beach hotels, on the island of Maui. My cousin, also named Mokihana, sent me a message, "Maybe you should go meet this aunty. She's doing similiar work." The work was the sharing of the poi bowl, a contemporary version of a very traditional Hawaiian custom of setting aside any conflict or disagreements when the family came to the table to eat. Poi. The. Food.
In more ways than one, the sharing and eating of poi is the sharing of values, connection, and genealogy. My journey of becoming an elder begun with Aunty Betty continues today.
In a few minutes I will be meeting with a friend and Executive Director of a non-profit organization committed to serving the needs of the BIPOC community of South Whidbey Island, where I live. My hope is to share that practice of becoming an elder. I am creating a ritual of new beginnings, and continuation ... a genealogy.
This new practice will have a new name: a generous and plump name. MOMONA MAKUA.
There is more to come, and conversations which will spread Aunty Betty's lineage with that of the BIPOC Community of Pamoja Place.